Avoiding DTRs

[15:06] KLUTZIE: i'm still thinking of a way to say, "WHAT ARE WE?" nicely and not scarily
[15:07] KLUTZIE: seriously can u imagine me like in the middle of the movie turning to him and saying loudly with my eyes open really big, so........WHAT ARE WE?
[15:09] MissKali: hahahahaha
[15:09] MissKali: that would be the highlight of my life
[15:14] KLUTZIE: i'm sure it would

The above IM excerpt pretty much explains exactly why "girls night in" (a.k.a. the opportunity to gather and gorge ourselves on greasy pizza, fudge brownies, and pints of ice cream) exists.

Commitment and clearly defined relationships seem be to equally rare these days which is sad because from what I gather, a girl would be happy with just one of the two if she can't have both.

I've been living vicariously through my 25 year old single girlfriend for the past couple years and the greatest trouble in meeting someone appears to be not so much connecting with another person, but in maintaining that connection and understanding it for what it is. The horrible DTR ("determining the relationship" for those fortunate few that have never had to encounter the expression) is avoided like the plague and while steering clear from it leaves things up in the air and light, it needs to happen. It's like ignoring a cavity and waiting for it to reach the gum where it really hurts and too much has happened.

Time is everything. Don't waste our time. If I am the entree on your table, commit to me like I am that $$$ dish and if I'm just a small dish spinning on your lazy susan, let me know. DTRs aren't about hurting feelings, they are about being honest. So...don't get your Panties in a Bunch about it, just spell it out.